Over the past year I realized that there are a slew of negative mantras I use to put myself down when things aren’t going my way. I think we all do this to some extent, and its implications are dangerous. What you would think are harmless phrases can have a very real psychological impact. Take for instance phrases like: easier said than done, ignorance is bliss, it’s out of my hands, I don’t make a difference, nothing good ever happens to me and why do I even bother?
Each of the above seem quite harmless, but when you look into their implications you will realize that they can actually weigh you down. When you say “easier said than done” you’re automatically disregarding whatever outcome the action that it refers to will have. You’re making it seem harder than it really is without any real evaluation, you just say those words and it becomes so. In reality, you are making it more difficult for yourself. It’s a self-defeatist attitude, to put it simply.
How about instead we employ positive mantras like summa iru (just be), insha Allah (God willing), “when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it (The Alchemist, Paolo Coelho). Now try to list out your own positive mantras or think of what you would say to yourself to uplift your spirits!
Here are a few suggested by the wonderful resource of good vibes that is TinyBuddha.com:
Keep your head up and your heart open. Go slowly. Be easy. Let <insert name> be <insert name>
Let us now consciously discard negative mantras such as:
I’m too old
I’m a klutz
I don’t have the money to do what I want
My job sucks
I’m no good at…
I have no choice
Make your own list of negative mantras so that you will realize exactly when you use them how they affect your decisions and your perception of situations that are in reality much easier to face than you make them seem. Trust me, this exercise has immense potential in alleviating stress and allowing a positive attitude to flow through your consciousness. Try it!